It's OK.

It's OK if you need to buy Christmas presents for your kids and typically everything they want is on an Amazon wishlist - it's the modern equivalent of circling Barbies in the Argos book, right?

It's OK if you go full force into Colour Friday, and complete your shopping with amazing independents. You go, Glen Coco!

It's OK if this year you're scaling back and aren't really doing any Christmas shopping, One of the best gifts you can give is time with your loved ones, and that doesn't cost a thing.

It's OK to feel overwhelmed at all the emails and messages and sales that will be thrown your way in the digital world today. It's a lot, and much of it is based around shaming you into buying.

It's OK to love a bargain from a huge store and still love buying from independents - and it's OK to be a bit gutted that your favourite independents can't afford to compete with the big companies on sales. We all love a good deal.

It's OK if you don't agree with Black Friday in principle but found something you need in one of the sales. You're human, buy the thing you need and leave guilt at the door.

• Walk outside barefoot with your morning coffee and really feel the earth below your feet. Listen to what's around you - perhaps it's birdsong, or maybe it's traffic. Let your imagination follow those vehicles to a little journey as you sip your coffee and enjoy this moment of calm before the day starts.

• Read a magazine. Perhaps you have to buy one, perhaps you're like me and have stacks that you haven't gotten around to reading yet. Flick through and look at the pictures first, and then go back and devour the articles which stood out to you. Give yourself an hour of escapism.

• Pay it forward. When you're getting your morning coffee or you're waiting at the drive-thru, pay it forward and get the person behind's order too - if you can afford to. You'll both be glowing with joy all day.

• Immerse yourself in water. If you're a cold water swimmer, embrace a finally calm day and head to your nearest beach, river, lake or quarry. If that's a bit much for you, check out the public swims at your local pool and just have a drift about - or run a hot bath. Water has loads of healing qualities and I know you'll feel incredible afterwards.

• Take an extra step in your skincare routine. Perhaps it's a face mask, or a facial massage, or using that special serum you bought that time but never ever use. A little extra time for you feels so good and with the weather turning cold and, for the lucky few, central heating dehydrating us - I know your skin will appreciate a little TLC.

• Cook some soul food. What food lights you up and grounds you all at the same time? Makes you feel warm, and comforted, and nourished? The answer is different for everyone, but buy the ingredients for your favourite supper on the way home later, put your favourite record on, and cook something beautiful. Bonus 'It's Ok' points if you make enough to freeze a couple of portions too!